Grief isn’t just about feeling sad. It isn’t linear, and it doesn’t stick to a timeline. Yet, these are the three most common myths people typically believe (and are told) about grief—and believing them is likely to make your journey unnecessarily harder. In my work, I’ve encountered many grievers who have found themselves thinking, “I should be over this by now,” or ask, “what’s wrong with me, why aren’t I crying?” If you’re worried about how you’re grieving, know you are not alone. Many people struggle not just with their emotions, but with the overwhelming pressure to fit into society’s preconceived (but outmoded) beliefs about what grief should look like. Let’s set the record straight.